My name is Justin Campbell – Thanks for stopping by.
So here is the story. A few years ago my church hosted a singles forum. I didn’t attend because I had a date that night (which I think is hilarious on many levels). But many who went were frustrated. The truth is as I saw it promoted I had thoughts about what could be said that would be different than the normal stuff. But unfortunately I didn’t share it. So after it was over I did share it with some of my friends and with my pastors. Everyone said the same thing, “Man that would have been good to talk about”. Over the the next year I began developing a lot of thoughts and the following year I got to lead a time with singles and marrieds about singleness in the Body of Christ. By all accounts it went really well and I realized a couple of key things
1. No one talks about this stuff. Not really. Most Churches don’t know what to do with it. Heck our church is at least 50% single and they still don’t know what to do with it. The basic message is “Don’t have sex.” And in fact they never bring up singleness without bringing up sex, which leads to
2. We talked for an hour and a half and we only spent about 5 minutes on sex.
I realized that I had nothing to hand anyone about what we talked about. I had these ideas but no where to share it. So here we are.
Now here’s the thing and I want you to read this clearly – I am not here to say that all my ideas are right. I’m simply trying to have the conversation. The truth is I was single until I was 41 and I’ve done it all wrong. All of it. I’ve dated wrong, I’ve pursued wrong, I’ve lived wrong. I’ve been in every cycle of bitterness, righteous indignation, anger, sadness, loneliness, etc. I’ve done every one of those wrong. I’ve hurt people and I’ve been hurt. I’ve held marriage as an idol. I mean I’ve done EVERYTHING wrong.
So I’m not here to share because I’ve figured it all out. But I know we need to. The reality is that 49% of adults in the U.S. are unmarried. And if the Church is going to take care of it’s own as well as be on mission it had better wake up to this. They have no idea what they are doing. I don’t mean that as a slam – I just mean it as truth. And it’s time to talk about it for real. What does it look like to walk with Christ as a single person? How can marrieds and singles serve each other (and not just babysitting for the married people)? How can we stop accidentally hurting each other and start helping each other? Why are you single – do you even really know? These are just a few of the things that we need to start talking about.
So here we go – feel free to disagree. Ladies remember that I’m a guy so I’ll be coming from that perspective – can’t help that. Feel free to follow, comment, tweet me (please be gentle), share me, or just stop by when you want, and let’s talk for real.