Coming into adulthood in evangelical culture one of the constant messages was that sexual sin was different and more important than other sin. Now of course the official line was that all sin was “equally” bad. This is sort of true and sort of not true and therefore super confusing.
Let’s clear up a couple of things about sin to sort of set the table for this topic.
One of the things I did a lot as a single person is pray for a spouse. That took a lot of different forms. Sometimes it was simple and relaxed. Other times it took the form of crying out (read begging) for God to bring me The One. Often when I really thought someone could be the one it was praying for God to “make it happen”, sometimes before I’d even been on a date (that hurts a little to type – Ha!).
But over and over again for years, it never happened. God didn’t “answer” my prayer.
This really begs two different types of questions. First, should we, and if so how should we, pray about gaining a spouse. Second, why is it that God doesn’t seem to answer this prayer or as I like to say, why doesn’t God just “poof” us a spouse.
More Than Don't Have Sex 